Kuliling

location: Essex Junction, VT

mood: hungry

music: Love Will Keep Us Together / Captain and Tennille

...a draft of a supposed blog from last spring... I had to post since I thought I could just feel my emotions from these sentences.
 

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I haven't blogged consistently for a while and have seem to lost all my readers out there in the blogosphere.  So when some real people, real friends who know me have read my blog for the first time since I posted my link in multiply...I got various reactions.

Some could relate, some were a bit surprised about my honesty and how much of my soul I bare, some are a bit disappointed, some are shocked about the truth. 

I thought though that me and Conrad (yes friends...that's his name here in the US and in Singapore)  being the golden couple of all time has always been too good to be true.  We might have inspired a lot of people in the past since we are after all glaringly vocal about our mad love.  But all the blissfulness is a hype and we knew (well...at least I knew) it was bound to end sometime.  Even if it has, and there are times when I am tired and wanted to give up...I know that I won't because I know that giving up on what we have will make both of us even more miserable.  These are bursts of emotion that all of us feel as a result of frustration and disappointment...but that is never enough reason to give it up.  I realize too that most married couples experience this and I feel that this is normal.  I still think that I could never be better off with anybody else.  If I have to contemplate deeply, I will have to quote myself from a previous post I made last year...I probably love the guy more than I realize.  So there should be no cause for worry or surprise.  I don't think there is anything wrong with us...it's just reality of marriage and the fact that we all have our respective differences.

We had a bit of a struggle last winter, but believe it or not, after 9 years, we have since then worked out our differences and have (for the first time) finally compromised.  We all have to make our own individual sacrifices to keep the household atmosphere harmonious.  I guess it all starts there... and communication is also key.  I believe I tend to keep my frustrations to myself in the past because of fear of confrontation...which I was too tired to face.  Keeping it to myself will just keep things bottled up inside me and will definitely hurt my sanity.     

Lastly, we have to realize too that there is a God that brought us together and keeps us together.

 

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